It seems that there has been an abundance of troubled relationships over the last few months. 3 people I worked with at my former job were on the verge of splitting up, my wife and I nearly got a divorce a month ago, and now a close friend of mine is losing his marriage as well. In all of these cases, it has been the wife's actions and initiative to end the marraige. I am not saying that myself or any of the husbands were perfect and had nothing to do with the situations but nothing to justify divorce either. My buddy is devistated and it looks like it may be too late to salvage his relationship. 2 of my 3 former co-workers are back on track now but the 3rd is still kinda shakey.Is there something in the water that is causing wives to second guess their family life? For me, it was the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with (even worse than the many deaths I have endured of close friends and family) and I nearly gave up all sense of hope before my wife agreed to reconcile things. I left my job (whick I loved), gave up fishing, gave up the internet for the most part, got rid of 14 of my 18 aquariums, sold most of my material toys, I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, I was throwing up constantly, in fact, I lost 40 pounds in 13 days! I have always believed that people often times give up way too easy on marriage and often times get divorced without just cause but I understand how painful love can be when you are facing losing the one you love and maybe it seems easier to walk away from the pain. I chose my wife for better or worse and til death do us part. I couldn't give up. I faced the pain and it cost me but the reward is far greater than the cost. In just a few weeks time, I discovered things about myself and my wife that I never knew and I have been with my wife for almost 18 years. I discovered some of the deeper evils and areas of concern. We made the decision to move to a new home, leave our jobs, segregate old ties, rededicate our time together and focus on what is really important. I am extremely glad that I made it through it because the bond I now share with my wife is stronger than it has ever been. Anyhow, I just thought I would post on here to let anyone know if they are having troubles and need an ear, PM me. I've been thruogh it and will be happy to offer advice or just listen.